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I believe it’s a rite of passage (or a ritual) for women to sit around and wait for a man to call or to commiserate with the girlfriends on why the man you’re interested in isn’t calling you. And your girlfriends, because they love you, will sit around and give you a myriad of reasons why he isn’t calling: He’s working, he’s out with his boys, he had to take his momma grocery shopping, he lost his phone…you get the picture. And you will nod and agree with your girls, because you want to believe them and continue to wait for that phone call, or worse ye, call him.

Now I’m a person who likes simple answers. I genuinely believe that the simplest answer is the most correct and, in the case of a guy not calling, the answer is not only simple, but painfully obvious: He doesn’t want to talk to you.

That’s it. It’s no more complicated than that.

Experience has taught me that if a man wants to talk to you (see you or spend time with you) then he will. If he’s not well he’s got some other chick he’s making time with he doesn’t want to talk to you. I’ts just that simple. I’ll give you an example form my own life:

A guy who I was seeing off and on for a couple of years was always hot and cold. There were times when he was calling me all of the time and other times when I didn’t here from him at all. He would at times ring my phone off the hook but then I could go months without hearing from him. When I would call him during those off times, our conversations would be short or he wouldn’t return my phone calls. I would always make excuses about why he wasn’t calling, cause of course I just knew he wanted to talk to me.

Soon I begin to realize that when I wasn’t hearing from him he was screwing some other chick wasn’t trying to spend any time with me and no amount of calling on my part was going to make him do that. But when he was calling he was through with the other broad trying to spend time. So if he could ring my phone off the hook when he was looking for some ass wanted to spend time with me, he could have done it all of those other times as well. When he wanted to talk he called. When he didn’t, he didn’t. Simple. And I stopped spending my time making excuses for why he wasn’t calling.

So I want you take a look at your cell phone. If you have more outgoing calls to his number then you have incoming to yours…well you know the deal. Just in case you’re not sure, call him one more time. Give him one more chance to recognize your flyness and then call it day. If he doesn’t return your phone call, then forget about him. Erase his number form your phone (and call logs) and keep it steppin’, ’cause when one man’s not calling, there’s another one who will.

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